I am sorry but I have solved the mystery 
and yes , sorry again, but I will erase the group , it is really , from now on no longer needed.
it is a bit late now so can do a few words tomorrow but I figured out the secret, the missing puzzle piece. It was staring me in the face the whole time and it did not fit in at first…
took me a while to get my head around it
it is very complicated and yet very simple…
it is all not what it seemed to be, because one source was not talking but now she is , and it clicked
ps I figured this out by myself !!!!
Melissa threw me out tonight….
so it was certainly not that…
but once she threw me out , things started to click and fall into place hahahah, so clever , it is very clever
once you know it you will laugh your ass off